Healthy Relationship in Marriage

Many of the couples that I counsel and advise in the course of my ministry have different issues concerning the relationship. However one that call’s my attention is the role in the marriage or relationship that has been in my view upside down!… He wears the skirt and she wears the pants!… Inevitably it will bring it’s consequences!…

The man’s role is to be the leader, provider the guide and the strength, and that’s inherent to his physical constitution. So he should take the lead in terms of the main decisions within the marriage. That’s what women like in a men!…A guy who passes security, bold and courageous not a “Banana”!….

The problem here goes to some “Men” that aren’t assuming their role and therefore bringing loads of problems within the relationship:

  • Insecurity, arguments, lack of provision and above all bad example for the family and children.
  •  He took her girlfriend from the parents house, who were providing and giving her all the best, and assumed that role, the provider by getting married!…That’s what is expected from him.
  • By not taking leadership, he is forcing the wife to do so, and he is the source of the problems.

The women role is the helper, the auxiliary of the husband, that will help him to achieve success. Not that she can’t pursue it, but at what cost? To undermine her husband? To assume the role of a helper means to give him the support he needs, to encourage with words, to lift him up and give him the conditions that he needs to overcome. His success will be her success!…

The problem here goes to some “Women” that want to take over his leadership, to usurp his role and wear the pants!…That will bring a tool on the marriage or relationship.

  • He will feel disrespected and undermined.
  • There will be two lines of guidance and obviously they will clash somehow.
  • He will see the wife or partner as a “Mum”.

Here goes some tips for a Healthy relationship:

For MEN:

  • Establish some boundaries.
  • Do not be afraid to place things where they belong!..Sometime for the sake of “Peace” men keep quite, because they know the partner  will not be pleased with it. But at what cost?
  • Asume your role 100% and be the provider not just financially but above all emotionally.


  • Strive to help your partner to take the lead on major decisions.
  • Communication is essencial. Put forth your expectations. Sometimes the wife doesn’t speak what is making her frustrated and keeps everything to her, therefore taking the lead.
  • Help, Help and Help. Maintain a environment of Peace at Home!…
  • Don’t quarrel and complain all the time.

This is useful for those who have a relationship or still single. I hope you can put things right!..Do not procrastinate, do it now!…

This entry was posted in Marriage and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

3 Responses to Healthy Relationship in Marriage

  1. Luisa,oxford says:

    Boa noite,gostei e vou guardar para por em pratica no futuro,ainda bem que serve para solteiras/os,e muito importante manter paz dentro decasa,e nao reclamar toda a hora porque mulher gosta de reclamar,por isso nunca e tarde para aprender,so desejo que o Espirito Santo continue a usa-lo.

  2. URL says:

    Someone necessarily assist to make critically articles Id state. This really is the initial time I frequented your internet page and thus far? I amazed with the analysis you produced to make this actual submit incredible. Exceptional activity! 690719

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s